2021 Marriage Challenge Day 2

Day 2: Fear Not, Love One Another 

This is our focus for the next month. These two simple commands have the ability to radically transform our relationships. First, the positive--work to love one another. This defines the actions we will take. Second, the negative--fear not. We will discover the role fear plays in our marriages and begin to learn how to minimize its influence upon us.So what about fear? Have you ever considered that fear is a major drag on your relationship?Every marriage is negatively impacted by fear. Whether it be anxieties brought into our relationships from our family of origin or worries caused by our past experiences or personalities, every relationship is influenced by fear.The problem is that while fear impacts every relationship, rarely do we recognize that fear is at play. We think the problem is communication or sex or money or time, never realizing those are simply symptoms. In nearly every case the actual issue is fear. To consider how fear might be at work in our relationship, let's take one more quiz.    

To think more about fear impacts your relationship, this article gives an interesting insight. Fear often tempts us to hide. Are you or your spouse hiding in your relationship?

Question of the Day

My husband and I struggle with finances. We have separate accounts, but should we combine accounts?

Answer: The issue isn't whether the accounts are separate or combined. Instead of focusing on where the money is housed, fixate on how it is managed. Call a financial planner, a couple you respect regarding finances, or sign-up for a financial class at your church. Do what the planner or class says. Recognize that you struggle in this area, find an expert, and learn from them. If this doesn't work, call a marriage counselor because then the issue isn't money but is communication or responsibility.  

Questions?

I am not a professional marriage counselor and do not pretend to be. However, if you need help over the next month, don't be afraid to reach out. I can help point you in the right direction. Also, if you have a question, just reply to this email and I might include it in tomorrow's message. I won't use your name or tell your spouse you asked the question.