Why You Keep Having the Same Fight (even when you promise not to)

Most couples don’t fight about what they think they’re fighting about.

It’s not the dishes or the tone, and not even the thing that just happened.

It’s the pattern underneath it.

• Why one of you gets louder when things feel uncertain.

• Why the other shuts down when emotions rise.

• Why closeness feels safe to one of you—and overwhelming to the other.

That pattern has a name.

It’s called your attachment style.

And once you can see it, everything changes.

Not because you suddenly become perfect communicators, but because you finally understand why you react the way you do when love feels threatened.

That’s why I wrote Love Styles.

This isn’t a pop-psychology book or a “five tips to fix your marriage” guide.

It’s a clear, grounded explanation of:

• Why your nervous system responds before your logic does

• Why some people pursue connection while others protect distance

• Why your childhood wiring still shows up in adult relationships

• And most importantly, how secure love is learned, not just found

If you’ve taken the Love Styles Assessment, this book puts language and direction to what you already sensed was true.

If you haven’t, this book will feel like someone finally turned the lights on in rooms you didn’t know how to explain.

👉 Get your copy of Love Styles on Amazon HERE

Already read Love Styles?

First, thank you. Truly.

Second, your review matters more than you think.

Amazon and Goodreads don’t just measure sales; they measure trust.
A short, honest review helps other couples find language for what they’re already living.

If this book helped you understand yourself, your spouse, or your story even a little better, would you take two minutes and say so?

👉 Leave a review on Amazon or Goodreads HERE
(Leave an honest review, but if you only leave a 1 star, at least say why. Ha.)

You don’t have to fix everything today.
But understanding the pattern is how change begins.

Grace and peace,
Kevin