Stop Hearing What You Want. Start Hearing What You Need

We all know the trap of modern AI. You ask a question, and it gives you a polished, mirrored reflection of your own biases. It tells you exactly what you want to hear. But as we’ve discussed many times in this newsletter, growth doesn’t happen in an echo chamber. Growth happens when we are confronted with the truth, especially the truths we’ve been avoiding about how we show up in our closest relationships.

That is why I am incredibly excited to finally invite you to the beta launch of Lovestyles.ai.

Many of you have used the principles from the Love Styles book to navigate the complexities of your personal lives. But I wanted to create something that could sit in your pocket—a digital companion that helps you understand not just how you love, but how to communicate that love to the specific people in your life in real-time.

Currently, 60% of people using AI tools for personal reasons are looking for some form of psychological counseling or relational advice. The problem? Most AI is programmed to be "agreeable."

Lovestyles.ai is different.

It isn’t designed to validate your ego; it’s designed to help you understand yourself and others at a deeper level. It identifies the patterns that are keeping you stuck and offers the communication breakthroughs you actually need to hear to move forward. It’s a bridge between the theory of the book and the reality of your daily interactions.

The Beta Test: I Need Your Voice

Because you are a member of the Change the Odds community, I’m giving you first access to this tool. Starting today, Lovestyles.ai is completely free to use during our beta testing phase.

This won't be free forever, but for this limited window, I want you to put it to the test. Use it during a difficult conversation, use it to decode a recurring argument, or use it to better understand your own emotional triggers.

In exchange, I’m asking for your honesty. As a beta tester, your feedback will directly shape the future of this tool. If it’s helpful, tell me. If it misses the mark, tell me that too. We’re building this to change the odds for relationships everywhere, and I want you to be part of the foundation.

Quick Check-in:

Before you dive in, I’d love to know where your head is at:

Thank you for being part of this journey. Let’s stop hearing what we want and start hearing what we need.

Blessings,

Kevin

How to Get the Most Out of LoveStyles.AI

It’s a beta test, so be patient. But there are some simple things you can do to get the most out of this new tool.

The biggest thing—don’t give one-word answers.

We’ve trained this AI on all my material, but it works better when you give it more information. So give it examples, tell it stories, report what happened the last time you had a specific conversation. The more information you give it, the better.

Things it can help you figure out:

• Ask it to help you find your Love Style with a specific relationship (Attachment)

• Ask it to walk you through a process of determining your Lead Style (Personality)

• Have it assist you in determining how to best bring up a hard topic with a child

• Ask it to walk through your family of origin to determine what wounds you still carry

• Help it debrief a recent conflict with your spouse (like this Fight Club episode from the podcast)

• Give it a pitch you want to give to your boss and it can help you tweak it to make your best case

• Ask it about the CIA (control, influence, accept) about a situation

It’s a tool. It’s not counseling. It doesn’t pretend to be something it’s not. Yet I have personally found it useful as a sounding board to consider what’s going on inside me, how to best communicate to others, and how to better understand how I’m coming across to other people.

I’d love to hear your feedback. Just respond to this email.