Truth, Love, and Maturity in Marriage

Hey, I want us to talk about maturity and speaking truth in love in marriage, but before we get there, I have an invitation for you. This winter we are doing a marriage conference in Palm Springs. If you have never been to Palm Springs in January, I can’t explain what it is like.

We would love for you to join us January 23-25, 2026. It will be good content (me) and great people (all of you). Spots are limited. This might be the only time I make it avaiable to this email list so register here:

Maturity vs Immaturity

Most people never consider the importance of maturity in marriage. Yet when a couple fails to mature—mentally, emotionally, or spiritually—their immaturity comes with a great cost.

Immaturity leads to division. It prevents unity and forces individuals to take protective measures, thereby preventing them from uniting with others. Every divorce can be traced back to immaturity by one or both spouses. Adultery is immaturity. Similarly, so is greed, selfishness, and the inability to learn new skills, among others.

But unity is the byproduct of maturity. When a couple is mature, they can properly prioritize the important issues and accept differences in the secondary issues. This brings a couple together.

For this reason, a couple should put a priority of growing in maturity.

Remember, growing old is automatic, but growing up is intentional.

Speaking Truth in Love

The question is: how do we mature? If it doesn’t happen automatically, what do we need to be intentional about in order to grow up? The answer is speaking truth in love.

When a couple has the ability to speak the truth in love, they will grow in maturity, which leads to unity.

This week on the Podcast, Blaine, Adrienne, and I talk about this topic. We move beyond the theoretical and into the specifics. To me, this is one of our foundational episodes when it comes to marriage. We must learn to speak the truth in love if we wan’t to grow into the marriage we desire.

This topic is larger than just marriage. Here’s a sermon on the Biblical basis for it and why it is vital in every relationship:

What’s Coming UP

I can’t tell you. Ha. I wish I could, but I can’t. Beyond the retreat, two new books, a premarital class, an expansion online via Our Life for Blaine and Adrienne, there is one big project we are soon to launch that I can’t tell you about…yet.

But it’s coming and I think it could be transforming for many couples.

Stay tuned.

Kevin