Your Marriage Is Not in Neutral

We are all becoming something. Whatever state of your present relationship is 90% the result of the work you did on your marriage two years ago. In the same way, the relationship you will have a few years from now will primarily be determined by the work you do today.

So, what are you becoming? If your present direction continues over time, where will you end up?

As mysterious as marriage can feel, it is far more predictable than we realize.

Either you are headed toward becoming better friends, partners, and lovers or you are careening toward another option. And those options are generally limited to just a few options.

• Roommates. Living together but lacking emotional connection.

• Business Partners. Prioritizing productivity and efficiency, but lacking heart.

• Co-partners. Primarily focused on raising kids, but not that concerned about one another.

• Adversaries. Instead of working together, working against one another.

• Strangers. You no longer really know who each other is.

• Prisoners. You feel trapped in your current situation.

• Victim & Villain. You are in a constant game trying to prove how the other has wronged you.

• Nurse and Purse. She is just taking care of him like.

• Parent and Child. One is responsible and the other is not.

All of those options sound exhausting. Yet having a spouse how is by my side, has my back, and loves me even while she sees me completely sounds life giving.

For the next 12 episodes of the Change The Odds Podcast, Blaine, Adrienne, and I are walking through Becoming Friends, Partners & Lovers The Guidebook. Each episode will include a 25-30 minute talk from a class I’m teaching at Bayside Granite Bay.

Here are the first two episodes: Episode 1 (Apple or Spotify) Episode 2 (Apple or Spotify) It’s always helpful if you click to like or follow the podcast or leave a review.